ME! News: How can new parents keep the spark alive while having realistic sexual expectations?
RAS: It’s so hard to find the energy to engage in intimacy when you have this little human depending on you. Be kind and compassionate to yourself in the same way you would be to a friend who is going through a difficult time. But the factor that most affects libido is fatigue. If you can prioritize getting more rest, you will naturally boost everything else. I also don’t want couples who have a newborn to put pressure on each other.
ME! News: How can new moms get back to feeling comfortable and connected to their bodies when so much is changing?
RAS: There is a misconception that once you have a baby, six weeks later, your OBGYN clears you to have sex again. But the body doesn’t say, “Okay, six weeks is up. I’m going to go back to the way I was.” It can take up to a year for the body to begin to feel like it is recovering. It’s normal if you don’t feel like having sex for the first six months of having a baby or, for some, up to a year. Getting to know your body again will be a slow process of exploration, but take your time getting back to what you want to do.